Black Angu$

     I FEEL LIKE WE ALL HAVE HEARD WORDS FROM PEOPLE THAT WE DIDN’T WANT TO HEAR. Our neighbors and friends have a way of stopping us before the world can laugh. Have you seen the video of the girl who with the wig? The one where the girl thought she looked good and was posting freely and going live and then her family got into the car and they all told her that the wig looked horrible. You could just see her whole little emotions deflate. It was so sad that you had to laugh. Well we all have friends and family members like that. Some of them really are haters, but the ones that you get along with have to be honest to you right? 

Let them.

     Allowing a person to give you their truth can be good information. I was talking to my homie D.Booze the other day, and he told me he wanted to send one of his artists’ music to a review to get some good feedback. I told him that he really wanted the opposite. When I send music to people I really wanted a good review on what I can improve and how I can improve it. I don’t want to just hear, “It’s good” or something like, “It’s not my cup of tea”. Give me some feedback that I can use. Tell me why you don’t like it, tell me how I can improve, so that way I can come back later with a song that you do like. 

     As people we have to take feedback from everyone. This is what can make us a better person, and it also teaches you how to move around certain people and in certain circles. Closed mouths and open ears can do so much more for a person than a bad response. Trust me, sometimes we just have to shut the fuck up. I have had to learn that the hard way, so learn form my mistakes. Please. 

     Have you ever tried to change someone out of pure love? If you have, and that person was not receptive, take a look in the mirror when people offer you advice. They don’t have to do it. They usually do it because they care. Don’t get offended because someone cares about you, I promise that was not their intention.

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Please let your children know that they can be the person who owns a business instead of being the employee. The way that we raise our children to see the world is really what will make the difference in how they grow. I hope that my kids all own, and I try to put that seed in their brains every chance that I get. We as black people do not own enough. We do not have enough owners that we can relate to, and that only matters because of the way the money is used. If the black community spends money with each other, and we socialize with each other publicly, and we educate our children, the economic status will change for us all. The goal would be for the black business owners to put money into the community by purchasing and renovating properties, and creating opportunities for the youth. Cleaner streets and higher employment rates will make the property value rise, which will allow our community to maximize profits from home sales and create more money for schools. Why don’t we work on these things more? Why is there hatred and mistrust in our own communities? We have things we need to address in order to make this vision a reality. It does not involve hatred towards other races, It involves love for own own race. I saw a news article about a new all white neighborhood being created. We can do the same thing, without being in government housing. We can take more pride in our own areas. We can spend more time beautifying the areas we call home. We can spend more time doing things that will help us. Please teach your children to dream. A dream can come true if the right amount of work is applied. Please don’t let your mistakes become the fear of your children. Help your children as much as you can. Encourage your children to try, and pick them up when they fail. Help them learn where they went wrong and tell them to try again. They can do it. You can do it. We can do it.

Remember that we our who our children want to be. If we show them that we are smart and capable, that’s what they will emulate. If we show them how to do drugs and sleep with multiple partners, that’s what hey will do. A lot of parents forget about the normal factor. In some countries, they stone mean and women to death for cheating. In a country like this, the children see this, and eventually become a part of the crowd throwing the stones. To us Americans that may seem horrific, but to them its another day. To them its a normal consequence like going to jail for stealing here in the United States. In some of those same countries, they cut off peoples hands for stealing. We have to realize that we create “normal” for our kids. We have to remember that we set the stage for their lives. Some of us have it harder than others because of the other parents, but that does not mean we can take a break or just let things happen. We have to set good examples at all times. What happens when the kids aren’t around is none of their business, but be the best example you can be while they are in your presence, They will become successful and will thank you for everything.

We ain’t getting no younger, we all know that though right?  

I had a friend that I was close with once upon a time, and one day I saw him and he just didn’t look the same. One day he looked more “round” than normal. I told him to go to the doctor, and it just didn’t seem like a good choice for him.  We hung out for a while and then I went home as usual.  I couldn’t help see the similarities between the A few days later I decided to go visit him and we had the same talk, leading to the same result. The next time I saw my friend, I made fun of his new shape until he told me to leave. The next 2 weeks I repeated that and each time I told him to go see a doctor. Well about a month later he called me and told me thanks. I asked him why he was thanking me.  He told me that he finally went to the doctor, and the doctor gave him a list of things that he needed to fix immediately. I was glad that he went to see a doctor, but it almost made me cry when he spoke his next sentence. He told me that the doctor gave him told him, “Whoever told you to come in saved your life. I’m not sure how much longer you would have lived without getting on the right meds and changing your habits. He was diagnosed with diabetes among other things and learned that it was time to stop drinking alcohol as much. 

We have to start listening to our bodies as soon as it speaks to us. I go get bi-annual blood tests to try to catch my problems before they become irreversible. Pain means something. Fatigue means something. Internal flutters mean something. I bet when that brown eye starts to drool, you sprint to a toilet. People don’t want to poop on theirselves because people can see it. The things people can’t see are far more dangerous. 

Please trust these few things: 

Vegetables and fruits will do you better than fast food on any day.  

Alcohol will kill you silently.

Tobacco will shrink your veins and cause heart issues

Exercise really will help you over time, not just how you look, but how you feel.

If you feel like you can’t do it alone just reach out. Other people want to live healthier too.

I said all that to say this, “take your ass to the doctor, and when you get there, tell him to test you for everything, Cholesterol, AIDS, Vitamins and deficiencies, allergies, Cancer, and anything that might be in your family.  Please, it might save your life.  It’s better to “live with it” than to “die from it”. You might have gotten use to your check-engine light being on. Please take your body to the human-mechanic today. At least schedule an appointment. I’m rooting for you to win, but none of that matters if you can’t finish each race.  I often advocate for mental health, but HEALTH matters, in all forms. Feel free to comment and let me know what your doc says.

It’s easier said than done right? Actually no, it’s not. If you keep going forward you will eventually find yourself in a better situation, but if you chose to quit, you don’t have an option for your dream to get better. I feel like sometimes we want our dreams to start at the part where the money falls from the sky and the cameras flash every time you step out. We would love that, but it doesn’t even make sense. What makes sense is making sure that everyone knows that you have a product. If you never tell anyone about the things you do, how will they know? I have started posting more items on my store, and that has taken a lot of time away from me, which is why I haven’t been blogging lately, but guess what, I didn’t quit. 

If the cure for all diseases existed, but you didn’t know, how would you get it? You would have to first be around someone else who knows it existed. The power falls in the hand of the creator at that point. The person who creates the cure to all diseases has to let the entire world know that his invention exists and has been tested and deemed safe, or nobody will ever know, including the people who need it the most. 

You have to keep going, but ina sense that allows you to get better or add to what you are doing over time. Don’t start a plan without intentions of improving. Don’t take criticism as a thing that hurts you. At the same time, don’t shop to people outside of your intended target. That advice goes for anyone who makes anything. If you make music for young people, don’t let a crowd of older people hear it, and vice versa.  Always make sure that you target your intended audience to make sure that you get a true gauge of the product you are delivering. You also want to know how you are received, and that will usually be to your peers. They can relate to you more than anyone.  Some people have the ability to target all audiences, through mediums such as art.  If you are an artists that works on a canvas, then you have a larger crowd than a musician. Art can go anywhere, and say anything. A painter is the only type of artist though, that can switch everything about his art with the wind, and still be accepted. The signatures of the brushstroke will always remain evident in the faces of the people painted, and the letters that are freestyles, but everything else can change in an instant, and no one will call the painter fake. Just keep going until you find the ones who love what you make/say/do/sell/create.

Please don’t quit. You don’t have to. It’s easier to give up but its not rewarding. 

Something in the universe is waiting to be affected by you.

What’s up Y’all, I’m back with another one. What do you do with your time? Do you think about how the stuff you watch affects, or desensitizes you? Well, most of us don’t, but most of us don’t think about what matters until we lose it. Let’s not be those people today. I challenge you, if just for a day, to stop watching negative videos on social media, and stop reacting to negative posts.  If you can spend one day a week doing that great, but first lets make it to one full day.  It might be hard, and depending on your algorithm, there might not be anything else in your feed.  That’s cool, we are trying to change that.  Go to the search bar and type in something that you have always wanted to do, no matter what it is. Horseback riding, fishing, making pottery, how to fix a car, where to skydive near me, ANYTHING. As long as it’s something that you actually want to do, we can start to change the algorithm and get your feed to a place of peace. 

I think we feed the monsters to much, and it’s becoming a problem. A large apportion of humans love drama, and that means that we can find it in our social media. Social media watches us as much as we watch it. It will tailor our experience to see the things that we look for. So the point of today’s exercise is to look for more thinks that are relevant to the person you want to become.  Look for more wholesome content.  Look for things that can positively affect your day week, or life.  If we keep watching the people who makes this bogus-ass content, we will keep getting them paid, which is why they keep making this crap in the first place.  If we started watching things that mattered, the social media platforms would be forced to give us more content that matters.  Please don’t make it all political.  All of the things you type, I want you to like each video you like. This will start to add those types of videos to your feed.  When you notice the things that you searched today pop up in your feed, like those videos and you will begin to see more.  

Today is also a good time to unfollow things that have been hacked, or don’t fill the desires you wished they would. Clear those pages and posts away from your eyes, to make sure that what you have is connected to who you are. Old friends that you don’t talk to for personal reasons, can be let go of. No need to say goodbye, just end that friendship on the internet, the same way that you did in real life.  Have you ever thought about the way it affects you to constantly see things or people that you don’t want to see? It definitely can’t be a good outcome. There is more positivity to come from watching things that help you grow, or watching people who make you happy. Also having people who hate you as friends can give them information that they can use against you. 

As simple as this was, it will have an impact on the way that you feel daily. It will make you feel better, and give you more ideas that matter to you. I hope that you found this helpful in some type of way. Go plant something today that will grow green and give you more oxygen.

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Have you ever had a bad experience with a hospital? I have.  The one in the middle, in Colorado Springs is the worst hospital of the options here in town.  Not only me, but several other people that I know have been treated like absolute trash in that hospital.  I was once drug out by hospital security while having an extreme a-fib incident. If you have ever experienced the hospital staff at this hospital, you know what kind of clowns I was dealing with on this day. Due to my skin darkness I was treated as if I was a junkie. They will drug test us dark people and treat us according to the results.  Out of fear I screamed at the receptionist for help, feeling as I was having a heart attack.. and she snapped her feelings and told security to remove me, as if she was a mob boss. Luckily I had someone driving who was able to give me a ride to the nearby army base that confirmed I was dealing with a cardiac issue that they immediately sedated me to handle. I was an active duty soldier being treated this way, so I can only imagine what type of horrible treatment the public receives from this hospital staff.  

My question has always been a simple one.  If you don’t want to help people why are you working at a hospital? These raggedy bitches will let you die in the waiting room because they “think” you are ok.  They can’t see you bleeding, so they don’t see the problem, and treat people as if there isn’t one.  Right now, with all of the federal cuts, who knows what quality of care we will receive over the next few years. Please contact your hospitals Patient Advocate and complain about these raggedy ass healthcare workers when you deal with them.  Feel free to give compliments to the staff who treated you good, but you must complain about the ones who treated you bad. If enough people complain they will fire the individual, but most people only complain to the immediate staff or co-workers, and the person who should make the difference never finds out about the issue.  When you complain to co-workers, you are complaining to friends.  If someone sent a complaint to one of your friends, how much difference would it make? Your friend might talk to you about it, but definitely wont fire you over it.  This leads to continued complaints over the same actions, because you are still in the same spot, as the same person.  

What we all need to do, is always complain to a higher authority.  Always. ALWAYS!!.

Complaining to a higher authority will allow you to get much needed feedback not only to the supervising staff, but also to the hiring manager, who can implement training to new staff. Training the new staff to handle patients with more care will eliminate this issue in the future staff who replaces the staff who will get fired as a result of truthful complaints.  If you are a manager, and a person complains to you, you may fix the problem, and you may not even care. Only you and the complaining patient know about the complaint.  When it becomes a topic at weekly or daily meetings, it can no longer be ignored.  This is why you have to start complaining to a higher authority.  Teach your children to do the same so that their teachers, and eventually their bosses and those around them can expect to be treated fairly one day.

The example of the day is about hospital staff and I have added a video below to help you understand something important.  Don’t complain with your emotions, they will make it hard for anyone to hear you. It’s also hard to be the victim, when you sound like the aggressor, so be cool. The other thing is that even this video recommends that you get in touch with a person designed for complaints, and not the people who work around the crappy individual. Stop complaining about people to their friends, so you can get their asses fired, and the friends wont continue to approve of the patients being treated bad.  This goes for anyone, in any public setting. Complain about the people who treat you unfairly, so that their bosses-bosses get tired of hearing about them and fire them.  They can take that shitty attitude elsewhere, and they can either continue to get fired, or learn to do their job diligently. Someone out there wants that job and will do it right. The end.

I’m sure we have all said some things that we regret. I have said more than most, and I try to live a life that shows I am a better person.  On the road to watching your mouth, you will be reminded of the things not to say often.  I try to not talk about people these days at all, but saying “I don’t know” has gotten me farther than I expected.  The other day I was talking to someone close to me, and that person said that she didn’t care if anyone died.  She said that death had no effect on her.  This person has not experienced death much, and I tried to get her to understand all sides of it. No matter what I said, she never tried to understand.  I heard her very clearly, and listening to her combat reason actually hurt.  It hurt because this is a person that I care about.  It hurt because it was one of my children.

I blocked her from my phone after she hung up in my face.  I knew that I had not done anything mean to her, and I also know that she might not understand exactly what she was saying, but her words meant that I didn’t matter. She told me that if I died that nothing in her life would change.  This child doesn’t live with me, my daughter that does live with me doesn’t feel like that at all, and I would be afraid for her to feel like that.  I have been asking myself how I great about our interaction for days at this point, and it broke my heart.

If she died, it would have hurt me more than she knows, and I expressed that, but her words have changed the way that I feel.  I feel like distance would be the best thing, even though I know that I should try to bond with her more so that she can experience more love from a parent.  The issue is that she doesn’t want it, and I have other children that do.  Words showed me that in the moment, (although she may not have meant those exact words) she doesn’t care about my feelings.  We as parents often find ourselves fighting for love form our children.  That is not how love works. I do understand the dynamic of unconditional love, but all of my love comes with conditions

1. Treat me good the way you want to be treated
2. Expect the same amount of energy that you give me
3. Talk to me from a neutral place

I don’t think that these are extreme expectations. I unblocked my daughter after a couple of days, knowing that fighting fire with fire only makes a bigger fire.  I still haven’t spoken to her directly, but if I do, I’m not even sure what to say.  It’s not that fact that she doesn’t care if I die that hurts. It’s that fact that she doesn’t realize how much changes when people die.  There are questions I wish I could ask my father, but he isn’t here.  There are still things I would like to talk about with my mother, but that advice isn’t on earth anymore.  I feel as if I haven’t done my job as a dad, by getting her mind prepared for life’s challenges.  She is definitely a strong minded woman, and I know that is a skill that can’t be taught.  I also know that it must be tamed or that strong will can crumble a mountain.  I hope that she can understand the power of will and use it to enhance her quality of life.  We can’t be more than we want to be, so we must want to be something.

The power of your mind is the most important thing that you have. Think the right way, so that you can “be” the right way.  You are whatever is in your subconscious mind.

Men have changed entire landscapes, built the Great Wall of China, Conquered nations, enslaved generations, saved and destroyed lives, all with will.  As a parent, I hope that she chooses to do the right thing with her will, if she does it will take her anywhere.

What will you do with your will?

Let my Stomach Live

Maaaannnn,,,, let me tell you this, I don’t have a use for a woman who can’t cook food as directed. So, we grew up in the microwave era.  We grew up with foods that can go from frozen to finished in 2 minutes flat.  Without understanding that those foods were already cooked, it’s hard to understand why refrigerated meat takes longer to cook than the frozen nuggets we get from the same grocery store. If all you can do right now is microwave, it’s ok, by the end of this article, you will be a better cook, or you will know where to sit until the food is ready.

The oven should be preheated before the food is placed in it.

Why?

Because it’s the only thing that makes sense. So let’s think about the process of cooking in the oven, with any random item like….. a frozen pizza.  The instructions given may tell you to cook the pizza on 400º for 20 minutes. If you turn the oven on and immediately place the pizza in, you will have to wait for the oven to heat up before the recommended cooking can begin.  Since the pizza is already in the oven, the pizza will most likely be cold in the middle because its was not cooking at 400º the entire time.  It heated for 10 minutes, and then the pizza cooked for 10 minutes.  The pizza never received 20 minutes at 400º and will not taste the way you want it too.

Can I cook chicken the way I cook Tyson’s Chicken nuggets? The answer is No.

We are going to put raw, thawed chicken into a HEATED pot that is on the range. We are going to fry this bad boy If you throw raw frozen chicken into the oil as soon as you put it on the stove, it will float, and as the oil starts to heat it and cook, it will cook the outside, while still melting the frozen interior of the chicken.  The result can be chicken that looks amazing on the outside, but jumps when you bite into it. This can lead to illness and even death depending on what kind of bacteria is still in the flesh and blood of the chicken.

There is another very important issue on the stove, and that is temperature.  Stop cooking with the stove on high all of the time. The proper way to cook on the stove is to set the dial to a desired temperature, and then wait for the oil to reach that temperature.  The reason why is to control the cooking experience.  If you cook with the dial on high, you will quickly realize that food starts to burn or get hard too fast, and when you realize this you will turn the heat down.  Now you have to play the time game again, and wait for the temperature to lower, meaning food will still burn until it reaches the desired temperature.  Turn it too low and the food will not cook at all internally.

Point being this.  If you can’t take your time and cook the food the right way….. get the fuck out the kitchen, get the fuck off the grill. Go sit you lil dumb ass down at the square table with the kids. Uncooked food can ruin a good pair of pants, or worse.  Please don’t rush a good meal women, especially if you want to lure a man with food. You can’t apologize for food poisoning. If someone shared this article with you it’s because they love you and they don’t know how to tell you that it’s your fault the food is always messed up.  If you just happened to find this, I hope you got something from it.   

No hard feelings, we listen and we don’t judge. 😂

With this being my first blog, I want to start with saying "Thank You" for your time. 

With that being out of the way, I need to remind you all to do the drug, but don't let the drug do you.  We often feel as if drugs are limited to Cocaine, Molly, X-pills, or Meth.   

NO.

A drug is anything you are addicted to.  A video game can be a drug.  Pussy can be a drug. Slapping people who talk too much can be a drug. Your lifestyle can even be a drug.

I was called by a friend this morning around 8:35, and suicide has been the shadow across the field for many years with us.  I believe that we actually met because a mutual friend named David killed himself, but thats an entire blog for the future.  My friend who called me today, told me that another mutual friend of ours killed herself a few years ago (which is probably the reason she hasn't been returning any of my messages), and on top of that his new girlfriend also committed suicide in his bed recently, and he is dealing with a lot mentally. He called  me because i was wise. He said that I was one of the people that he needed to talk to because he could trust what I said, and he needed advice.  The more I listened, the more I thought. Thinking allowed me respond in a way that helped him, and Im glad I was able too.

The common factor in all of the people who we talked about was alcohol.  Some of them did do harder drugs, but drinking was the one thing that all of these people (who killed themselves) had in common.  My mother personally drank and smoked cigarettes until it killed her.  She sat and waited on death to come because when my father died it broke her. I know that alcohol will ruin your motivation and way of living because I was a “willing victim” at one point.  I had friends who could get 8 balls of blow for $40, and that was when I was in high school, and just becoming an adult. I have personally seen what roads a decision can lead us down.  I have been locked up with dealers and addicts in the same cell. I know people who were addicted to stealing, addicted to lying, addicted to cheating.  I have seen people use almost anything as a drug, and the more legal it was, the less people around them tried to stop it.  Drinking should really only be done at the place you plan on sleeping for the night, but the system has set us up hasn't it? At this point, we are expected to drink some sort of alcohol at restaurants, bowling alleys, movie theaters, sports arenas, and of course the clubs.  How are we EXPECTED to go get drunk at all these places without a shooting, or a DUI happening? We put ourselves in these positions though, because we choose to go to these places.  What about the decision making process? Do we ever really think about our decisions while we are intoxicated? We generally think that our intoxicated solutions are the best ones, but they often lead to misery, and sometimes even jail or death.

I had also seen my friend, (who is generally a calm person) flip out in the past while drunk, and knowing all of the people we talked about, led me to see that most of the people we associated with during a specific time were all fucked up on something, pretty much 24/7.

I told my friend that he needed to stop drinking so much, and that he also needs to find more friends that don't drink.  Most of his friends deal with problems with beer and shots, so thats the only way he knows to deal with things. We usually deal with things the way that our peers do, so the actions he takes are normal for him, his culture, and piece of society. His background contains, beards, kilts, and swords. He drank a bit more, thank a bit more and decided to smoke a few bowls and sit the bottle down.  As we continued to talk, not only did the conversation change, but so did he. He smiled and laughed as we talked about playing football in our school days. The sound of the face-masks and shoulder pads colliding, the smell of freshly ripped grass. Once the conversation was over i had spent 3 hours catching up with a really good friend. I'm glad that I could help him in a time of need as well.

Point being this.  Today my friend was dealing with the effects of a life built on drinking, but many of my other friends are dealing with consequences of other addictions. Don't let drugs of any kind make you feel like things will be better.  Make things better without drugs. Make the hard decisions now, so that there is nothing to cope with later. Live your life as hard as you can. I'm not telling you to stop anything you are doing, but slow down and replace that extra time with something that you physically do, that makes you physically smile/happy.  Your body and your brain will both thank you.  This is the first part of changing.  It may not be easy in the beginning, but neither was riding a bike. In case you haven't heard it today, I'm rooting for you to win in life.  I have faith in you, and I know you can do it, even if you don't know it yet.

-Black Angu$ aka Yo Real Daddy-

If you or a friend is suffering from addiction please call 988 for the addiction hotline.